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Wife ordered me to take charge of her brother’s drug problem

DEAR DEIDRE: WE are all worried about my wife’s brother.

He is 27 and has a good job in IT. My wife is 24, I am 26.

Our family had to fork out £30,000 to bail him out of his drug debt
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Our family had to fork out £30,000 to bail him out of his drug debt[/caption]

We are all in the same group of friends. They were worried how much money he was borrowing.

He’d make up reasons why he needed it, always promising to pay it back but never doing so.

When my wife challenged him, he said he had a drug habit.

He claims he has stopped but my wife bought a drug testing kit and made him do it. He tested positive.

It turns out he owes £30,000.

The family paid off the dealers but my wife wants me to take over his finances and sort out his debts.

I want to help him for her sake but he needs to take responsibility.

DEIDRE SAYS: If you sort it out for him, he is not learning anything and may not change.

Tell him you will help him every month to budget his money sensibly but he has to be responsible for putting in into action.

Insist he contact Frank, the drugs information and advice service, to access help in his area (talktofrank.com, 0300 123 6600).

Make it a deal-breaker.

My e-leaflet on Solving Debt Problems has lots of constructive information on how to handle debt.

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