DEAR DEIDRE: MY mum isn’t speaking to me because I met a guy I was speaking to online.
It’s crazy. I am 19 and an adult.
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My boyfriend is 21 and we chatted by video for weeks.
When we arranged to meet in real life I told my mum. She tried to stop it.
I hate upsetting her, which I told her, but I went anyway. I know she worries.
My dad left us 16 years ago. My brother is 17 and she brought us up alone.
But it was the best night of my life and my boyfriend and I are now together.
Mum hasn’t spoken to me since. It is ridiculous I have to ask her permission to go out and the atmosphere at home is terrible.
If I speak to her, she won’t even look at me. She is over-protective but I want to decide things like this for myself.
I offered to move out but she says she needs my financial contribution.
DEIDRE SAYS: You are right, you are old enough to make up your own mind.
Tell her calmly you love her and want a good relationship with her but you have to make your own decisions as an adult or you will be forced to move out.
Say you’d love her to meet your new boyfriend with an open mind. Then she can see that he cares for you and hopefully will give you her blessing.
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